Control or lack thereof

It's a weekend!

Something that's irritating to a lot of people is the lack of control, the in ability to have things your way. It's perfectly understandable; we like power, and so we like to be in control of whatever situation we're in.

But like I described in my previous post, sometimes, that limited perspective really opens up more opportunities to participate in certain situations. By not being in control, it allows oneself to not be caught up in making every comments, or doing every action, but rather responding to others, and contributing, rather than controlling. It amazing how many interesting ideas you can come up with while listening to others. I'm not saying having control is bad; sometimes you need to be a leader. But there are certain situations in which you just need to relax, and let others take the reins. It's kind of like what we're discussing in my Psych through Lit class; narcissism is when you think the world revolves around you. That the danger of being in control. You completely disregard others and in that way, slowly destroy the relationships around you.

Of course, it's hard to lose control. You have to be able to lose control for something you deeply care about. For example, one thing I learned while at a Summer Youth Conference was a bondservant is willing to lose control, and become bonded to his master, because he loves the master. Likewise, we can voluntarily lose control of maybe a school project, because we understand that the project will do a lot better if not under our control. And with this control, I'm not talking about being aloof, and not caring about it, but rather, not maintaining a dictatorship over the progress of the project. In this way, the project would flourish, because suddenly, there is a new flux of ideas coming in from other sources, other than yourself.

I guess no YouTube video today. Sorry folks.